Dear Boy's

Dear Boy's: I hear a lot of you talk about women as sluts and whores and easy because they fuck you on the first meeting etc. That they aren't worth time, your time, or feelings because they didn't value or respect themselves enough to fend you off, get to know you or perhaps if they are doing it with you then must be doing it with a lot of other guys.

What about your respect for yourself? You, this life is a two way street, a mirror of ourselves in the people, experiences and interactions around us. How is a woman to respect you if you just want to hop into bed with her without knowing who she is or who your sharing your energy with? If this is the kind of woman you attract, it says a lot about you. It says you are not willing or have not sought to know yourself. It says you are OK with being broken and looking for someone outside yourself to fix you. It says you do not love yourself or take care of anything beyond a basic physical surface level. It says your emotions are un-reached, your sexuality un-grown, your mental thought process is not open or changing etc etc. 

It is the responsibility of both man and woman to find partners willing to grow, change, mature and most importantly to move beyond level one sexuality, emotions, spirituality and physicality. Take your time, respect yourself and know yourself. Time spent on you and a woman is growth no matter the turn out, because you learn. Killing growth in yourself and enabling in others is immaturity, fear and insecurity. No man or warrior worth his salt would take such a shameful path or allow such disrespect of person, sexuality, emotions etc. Think about it. Stop blaming everyone around you and treat yourself with the respect due. Learn. Grow. Become a mature, wise and respected man.